How are you
being treated by other people?
Well?
Dreadfully?
The truth is
that you are being treated as well as you allow.
Makes you
stop and think, doesn’t it?
If you
aren’t currently being treated as fairly, graciously, respectfully and politely
as you would like – take a look at the way you treat
a) Yourself
b) Others.
The answer
is in one of those two or, possibly both.
If you
aren’t treating yourself with kindness, courtesy and respect others will pick
up on this.
You may now
be wondering how they would know how you treat yourself – well there are many
outward signs that you may not be aware of.
People pick
up on the visible signs first – 55% of people’s first impression of you comes
from your visual appearance. So, beginning at the top
·
Is
your hair well cut, coloured (if you use colour), clean and well groomed?
·
Is
your makeup well applied – not to heavy, but enhancing your natural features?
·
Are
your clothes neat, flattering to your body shape, appropriate for your age and
position, clean and well maintained?
·
Are
your accessories minimal, discreet, appropriate?
·
Are
you using the latest technology in mobile phone, iPad, other mobile technology?
·
Are
your shoes well maintained, comfortable, appropriate and stylish?
·
Do
you carry spare tights/nails/makeup as required?
Do you begin
to get the idea? Open your mouth to speak carelessly, do careless work, arrive
late or leave early or forget appointments and it is easy to see that you aren’t
treating yourself with respect. If you don’t, chances are most other people
won’t either.
By your
actions or inactions you are silently allowing others to treat you as the
second class citizen that you treat yourself.
Onto b). How
are you treating others? If you are careless of their feelings, putting them
down at every opportunity, gossiping, criticising and moaning then the majority
of people will be less than willing to go out of their way to be kind and
thoughtful to you. They will, most likely treat you as you treat them, which
seems only fair.
What most
will fail to realise is that this behaviour, too, is a manifestation of your
low self esteem.
Either way,
if you don’t appear to feel you are worthy of respect and courtesy others will
treat you as you show them by your treatment of yourself.
The answer –
should be blindingly obvious by now.
Treat
yourself with the love and respect you deserve by taking outrageously good care
of yourself and see what happens.
Now I don’t
mean go out and buy everything you want, eat and drink what you want and run up
a huge bill. No, No, No. Quite the opposite.
To take
outrageously good care of yourself you need to ensure you eat a healthy,
balanced diet, drink plenty of water, get sufficient sleep for your needs and
exercise most days.
Then you
need to apply my principles of investment dressing to your shopping –
remembering that less is more. Buying only the best you can afford and only
what works for you. Take great care of all your clothes and get up in time to
ensure your hair, makeup and clothes are as good as possible before you leave
the house every morning. No last minute rushing, pulling on anything that comes
to hand, hurriedly pulling wet or unwashed hair up into a band and applying
makeup en route to work, grabbing a coffee and bun as you fly past the cafe
because you didn’t have time for breakfast.
Take care of
you bank balance by careful and thoughtful purchases – ask questions before you
buy anything.
Have a go at
these ideas and let me know what happens.
You know you’re
worth it.
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2013, Sue Courtney – Success & Image Ltd. All rights reserved.
