What Temperature is Your Thermostat Set To Part 2 by Sue Courtney

In part 1 I shared with you the idea that any lack of success you may be experiencing in your career or finances may be due to your financial thermostat setting and the fact that you may be operating with your ‘windows open’, making sustained success more challenging to achieve.

Part 2 is dedicated to changing that – to ‘closing’ your ‘windows’ and beginning to think in the way rich and successful people do.

The first action is to bring out in to the light of day all the beliefs you have around money and career success. Make a list of all of them – this could take some time – days or weeks, in fact. It is an ideal exercise for the holiday season as many of you will have some time away from work. If you want 2013 to be more successful than this year has been, then taking stock of your belief system is a valuable use of your time.

Were you brought up with the belief that

·         “Money doesn’t grow on trees”

·         “You can’t have your cake and eat it”

·         “It’s in the sale, massively discounted. I have to buy it, it is a bargain”

·         “Money is the root of all evil”

·         “Rich/successful people are greedy/ruthless/ not to be trusted/criminal...”

·         “You only need enough money/success to get by – any more is greedy”

·         “Money doesn’t buy happiness”

·         “Save your money for a rainy day”

·         “That’s not for people like us”

·         “I’m not good enough/clever enough/qualified enough.....”

·         “There’s never enough, so if 1 person has a lot of money a lot of people can’t have enough”

·         “We can’t afford it”

Now, logically, I am sure you can see the flaws in these words, but if you were subjected to them from an early age they are imprinted on your subconscious at an emotional level. When faced with making a decision, most people, most of the time will make the decision with their emotions not logical thinking.

So, once you have got all your beliefs out and written down, what is the next step?

Study them and put them into 2 lists – 1 list for the positive, supportive beliefs that will move your life forward in the direction you wish to go. On the second list put all the negative, unsupportive beliefs that are keeping you stuck where you are.

Which list is longer?

If you aren’t experiencing the success you would like then I can pretty much guarantee that the negative list is the longer of the two!

OK – now you go through list 2 and with each item you can either

·         Find evidence to the contrary – so if your belief is that rich people are greedy and lazy, find evidence of hardworking, generous rich people. If possible spend some time with them, read their autobiographies, immerse yourself in the mindset of being rich to do more good in the world.

·         Decide how you would like that belief to be – so if your belief is “money is the root of all evil” you might change it to “money is the root of all good” and work with that belief – because it is more true than the negative.

·         Work out where the belief came from – who can you hear saying it? Why did they say it? It was their truth, based on their experience of life, but your experience is different – how do you experience it? How do you feel when you think about it? Is it true for you?  What do you want to do about it?

Remember, these are learned responses and not part of who you are. You can decide to change them any time you choose.

So, when seeking promotion and success there are a few ‘rules’ that may be helpful

·         Admire people who have achieved the success you aspire to. Get to know them, ask their advice and never, never, never resent their success. Bless them.

·         Be ready and willing to “blow your own trumpet” where it is appropriate. If you truly believe in your capabilities and know your worth, why wouldn’t you? It isn’t vulgar, it is sensible!

·         Keep learning – that includes taking courses, asking questions, networking. Successful people know they don’t know it all. They are successful because they are constantly developing themselves.

·         Receive with grace, knowing you deserve it – whatever it is.

·         Don’t let fear stop you. Successful people still feel fear but they act in spite of fear – they don’t let it stop them. They just get used to being out of their comfort zone and in their ‘adventure zone’. Doesn’t that sound more fun?

So now you know where your beliefs originated and that they are not relevant to your life and your goals.

You also know how successful people think and act so you can begin to make changes to the way you think and behave – begin to model successful people in their habits of thought and action.

So, complete the ‘closing’ of your ‘windows’ by making a list of your own, empowering beliefs about success and money that will form the basis of your thoughts and actions in 2013. Know that success is yours for the taking – you just have to do what successful people have always done – get out there and take it!

And if you are still wondering whether you will still be a ‘good’ person when you have climbed to the top of the ladder and made your millions remember this – success won’t change you, it will make you more of what you already are. If you are a kind, generous and thoughtful person, success will enable you to be even more wonderful. You will be able to help even more people and be an inspiration and a role model for those who follow you – what a great thought.

Make 2013 your best year yet.

 

I am in the process of arranging my 2013 seminars, some of which will be based on the ideas in this article. If you would like to know where and when there will be a seminar near you, or what my seminar topics and schedule will be then please email me at

info@successandimagecoach.co.uk telling me which areas you are interested in or requesting the full schedule.

 

Copyright © Sue Courtney 2013 – Success & Image Ltd. All rights reserved.

 

 

What Temperature is Your Thermostat Set To? Part 1

What Temperature is Your Thermostat Set To? Part 1 By Sue Courtney

You know how everyone likes the ambient room temperature set slightly differently? It is something I often come across in meetings and in families. When I was married I was always trying to sneak the thermostat up a bit, my husband preferred it lower (though I suspect this was more to do with cost than temperature). In meetings I often come across one person who needs the heating up full to feel comfortable sitting next to another who really needs the air conditioning on full. All very challenging.

But not as challenging as financial thermostat settings.

Are you aware of where your financial thermostat is set?

Are you aware where this originated?

 

Whose story are you perpetuating?

Are you aware of the impact this is having on your life and your success?

Most people will answer no to all of the above. Well, if you aren’t achieving the success you want and deserve, or find it difficult to hold on to money and success you need to know the answers –  I mean, you really need to know the answers!

I have been familiar with the concept of financial thermostats for some time and have had success with exercises that aim to raise them. However, this seldom lasts long if you aren’t aware of the origin of your present setting and how it impacts your level of financial success.

If you want things to change, read on.

Your lack of financial and career success is, in some measure, a result of where your financial thermostat is set. However, just turning the setting to ‘high’ isn’t the answer.

Imagine that you are sitting in a room that feels a little cold to you, so you turn up the thermostat and the room begins to heat up. Bliss. However, you failed to notice that all the windows are open and it is freezing outside.

 

·         Will the temperature rise as much as you would like?

·         Will the temperature stay as high as you would like in the face of the freezing cold air coming in from outside?

 

I think we can agree that it won’t. No matter how long you keep the thermostat turned up high, if the windows stay open the temperature will rise to your desired setting (with a struggle) but then gradually cool when the heating switches off. The only permanent way to ensure the room stays at the temperature you set is to close the windows!

And so it is with your finances and your career success. You may feel that you have your thermostat set at the temperature you want, but if your ‘windows are open’ – that is you are unconsciously living with beliefs that come from elsewhere and are not supporting you – you are unlikely to maintain your career and financial success long term.

So what are the beliefs holding you back from achieving your full potential?

You may be surprised – I was when I discovered my own truth about this.

I realised that I had spent my life living my mother’s ‘truth’ about money and wealth. But the most shocking part of this was that her beliefs had been formed during a family trauma when she was a small child – about 5 years old. I had spent my entire life living the results of an event that took place about thirty years before I was born and were obviously not relevant to me and my life – and never had been. This realisation was very powerful and I admit I did shed tears – of amazement and relief.

Now I know that my mother didn’t mean to affect my life and financial success in any way and would have been thrilled beyond measure if I had become one of the very rich people she claimed to despise. But, because of all I had been exposed to throughout my life I found myself ‘getting rid of’ any success and money that I didn’t feel I had worked hard for – and why? Because, in my subconscious mind, I didn’t want my mother to despise me for being rich. I also maintained a lifestyle that kept me more or less broke, so when I earned a lot of money my expenses grew to ensure it was all spent!

It took me many years to work this out and ‘close my window’. It all makes so much sense now – all the wasted extravagances, the unsuccessful ‘investments’ – all to ensure I stayed true to someone else’s beliefs. Now I can maintain any financial  temperature I choose, which feels so good.

Does any of this sound familiar?

Are you living the results of family beliefs around money and success? Were you brought up with the notion of ‘we are the workers’, ‘we aren’t management material’ or other negative beliefs around people who are successful in their career, life and finances?

Well, the good news is that it is possible to change this – to ‘close your windows’ – and turn your life around.

First you need to think the way successful people, who already have the career, lifestyle and financial success you desire.

In part 2, I will show you how.

Copyright © 2012, Sue Courtney – Success & Image Ltd. All rights reserved.